In the Words of MyCheekyDate
Let’s talk about the really uncomfortable thing — when to ‘get it on’.
When is the right time? It’s the most uncomfortable topic, yet it’s also one of the most asked questions we hear from daters.
How soon should I?
When is too soon? When is too long? Should I give in? Should I make the other person wait? Should we hold on to beliefs?
💬 The Honest Truth
There really is no answer to it, you know.
The thing that we at MyCheekyDate acknowledge is this: every person is different, and every feeling is different. There’s no statistic that says that those who wait tend to have more success, or that those who don’t wait have less success.
It can really be just a matter of the two people.
Oftentimes, people who rush into sex can be married together for 30 years. And oftentimes, those who wait for just the right moment at just the right time can see relationships suddenly collapse at a moment’s notice.
We don’t really believe it necessarily has a bearing on much of anything.
💛 The Real Answer
It truly comes down to this: if you feel it — you feel the trust, you feel the connection — and you feel the time is right, then that’s the answer.
But we shouldn’t get caught up in what other people think, in what the world thinks, or in stereotypical ideas about how it “should” be.
It really, truly is about what you believe, not what everyone else tells you to believe.
🌹 No Shame, No Stigma
There should be no shame, no stigma, and no judgment about when two people choose to become intimate.
Whether it’s on the first date or months down the line — both choices are valid. Life is far too short to overthink, overanalyze, or overhype something that should feel natural and human.
If it feels right from the get-go — go for it.
And if it feels right to wait — that’s just as right.
As for anyone who thinks less of you for either choice? Congratulations — you’ve just weeded out someone who isn’t right for you.
Connection is built on respect, trust, and honesty — not timing.
💖 What We Believe
At MyCheekyDate, we’ve watched thousands of daters find connection — some quickly, some slowly — and what stands out most isn’t when something happens, but why.
When two people share mutual respect, trust, and genuine attraction, that’s the real foundation of intimacy.
Not timing. Not rules. Not what anyone else says you “should” do.