MyCheekyDate FAQ | Speed Dating & Matchmaking Answers

the basics

Who We Are & What to Expect

What is MyCheekyDate, and what's this "UK style" about?

We're British by birth: American speed dating with a proper English twist. Relaxed, comfortable, and genuinely fun, with lovely daters rewarded for bringing kindness and good energy. Everyone else gets a polite "no, thank you."

Do the British really do it better?

We rather think so. Most speed dating nights feel like a job fair: stopwatches, whistles, a host shouting "time's up." We skip all of it in favour of a stylish, low-key room built for actual conversation.

Do I have to be British to attend?

Not at all. We bring the charm across the pond, but our daters come from everywhere: confident, open-minded, and looking for something real.

What kind of people will I meet?

Confident, amusing, and a little cheeky: people who set trends rather than follow them. Expect a smart venue, great company, and daters who take connection seriously without taking themselves too seriously.

How do I reserve my place?

Pick your city from the homepage, register online, and you're set. No paper tickets. You'll get an email confirmation and a spot on our guest list.

the cheeky standard

Who We Welcome

Do you screen your daters?

In eighteen-plus years of hosting, we've learned one thing: the nicer a dater is, the more matches they tend to make. Like a private club, we look for those who bring warmth and good manners, and we reserve the right to say no to anyone who wouldn't be a great fit.

How do I get invited to complimentary events?

By being your genuine, delightful self. Invitations aren't about looks or match count, they're about how you treat people. Warmth and charm are often rewarded with complimentary invitations or a curated introduction, on the house.

What gets someone banned?

We have zero tolerance for behavior that makes others uncomfortable. Anyone who disrespects a guest, host, or staff member is removed and may be banned from future events. Kindness is the one universal rule.

Are you affiliated with Meet-Up or similar groups?

No. We think Meet-Up is a lovely platform, but MyCheekyDate events are hosted exclusively through our own website and Eventbrite, never through third-party groups or listings.

What if an event is sold out?

Spots go quickly. Email info@mycheekydate.com about our waiting list, and keep an eye on the calendar, seats occasionally open back up.

What time should I arrive?

Whatever's listed on your confirmation, no need to rush. We usually wait for everyone to settle in with a drink before the rounds begin.

the mechanics

Smart-Card & Date-Mates

What's a "Date-Mate"?

It means you've made a match. Using your MyCheekyDate Smart-Card, you choose who you'd like to see again, and to what degree, then submit your picks by midnight. Log back in afterward to see your matches, no paper scorecards required.

How long do I get with each Date-Mate?

About six to seven minutes, just enough to spark something real. Larger events may run slightly shorter to make sure everyone gets a turn.

Is that really enough time?

More than you'd think. Most people know within a few minutes if there's a spark. You'll also have time during intermission and after the event to keep talking.

How do I contact a Date-Mate?

You'll get their first name and email address once matches are revealed. We suggest using an email that isn't tied to your workplace or full name, just to keep things discreetly cheeky.

What if I don't get a match?

We don't offer automatic free returns. Instead, we reward daters who bring warmth and good energy with complimentary or discounted invitations back, which keeps the room full of the kind of people everyone wants to meet.

on the night

The Practical Stuff

Is food included?

Sometimes our venues offer light bites, entirely at their discretion. We'd suggest eating beforehand, or grabbing a drink with a Date-Mate afterward, just in case.

How long does an event run?

Around two hours, including a short intermission to refresh and mingle.

What happens after the event ends?

Whatever you'd like. Many guests stay on for another round and keep the conversations going. There's no rush.

How many people will I meet?

Somewhere between sixteen and forty singles, depending on the city: intimate enough for real conversation, varied enough to find someone you fancy.

the fine print, made pleasant

Policies & Extras

Can I pay without going online?

All registration runs through our secure, encrypted website; we can't take payment any other way. Questions? Call 866-WE-SPEED (800-281-8528 outside the US).

What should I wear?

The British do love to dress things up, and we'd encourage a bit of that. Beyond that: wear whatever makes you feel confident. Our only real rule: no riff-raff.

I'm outside your listed age range, can I still come?

Of course, our ranges are suggestions, not gates. Pick whichever category feels right, and check back often for more.

Will I be photographed or filmed?

Never without your permission. A few invitation-only events are filmed for promotional use, but always arranged separately with prior consent.

What if I can't manage basic manners?

We have zero tolerance for rudeness. Our daters are, in many ways, our product, so we go to real lengths to keep the room full of respectful people. Falling short of that standard can mean a ban.

Tell me about the cancer-awareness partnership.

We partner with the Joan Gaeta Foundation for Lung Cancer Awareness through our Nights for Suzanne campaign. Donate the cost of your ticket to a cancer charity of your choice, let us know, and we'll add you to the guest list, our treat.