In the Words of MyCheekyDate
Every so often, we’ll see comments about speed-dating events — ours or others — saying something like:
“It didn’t seem like people were taking it seriously.”
“I’m looking for something more meaningful than what can happen in five minutes.”
We always find that feedback fascinating — and, honestly, a bit puzzling.
Because what we’ve learned after nearly two decades of hosting events is this:
💛 Meaningful connections rarely begin from seriousness.
They begin from moments.
Think about how many real-life relationships have started because two people bumped into each other in line at a coffee shop, or reached for the same apple at the market. Those sparks weren’t created by intensity or interrogation — they happened because two people were open, present, and relaxed enough to meet in the moment.
At MyCheekyDate, that’s exactly what we aim to create — an atmosphere that invites comfort, laughter, and genuine energy. Because we know that attraction often grows not from interviews or résumés, but from lightness, curiosity, and chemistry.
💡 The Psychology of “Serious” vs. “Relaxed”
Studies have shown that women, in particular, often present their funnest and most confident selves when dating — not because they’re being unserious, but because humor and playfulness naturally invite connection.
It’s the same reason we’re drawn to people who laugh easily and seem comfortable in their own skin: ease attracts ease.
Trying to “ascertain intent” in five minutes often backfires — because the very act of treating the moment like a test removes the spontaneity that creates attraction.
💕 Our “Cheeky” Take
So when someone says, “People didn’t seem serious enough,” we can’t help but smile.
After all — this is My Cheeky Date — the place for those who are lighthearted, who love a good laugh, and who believe connection flourishes best when everyone feels at ease.
Our daters tend to be those who show up curious, fun, and open to possibility — because that’s where chemistry lives.
Serious relationships grow from playful beginnings far more often than from formal interviews.
So the next time you’re at a speed-dating event, take a deep breath, smile, and enjoy it. You might just find that the person who seems to be having the most fun is also the one who’s the most serious — about finding someone they truly connect with.